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7 Things Guys Should Stop Doing on Online Dating Sites


Trying to be active and engaging on an online dating site can be disheartening, to say the least. The amount of crap that you have to sort through just to find a guy that isn’t a sexist pig, a serious creeper or about one step away from being a serial killer is no small task.

Once you get past the soon-to-be serial killers and creepers, you are then cast into the world of bad online dating profiles filled with desperation from guys who would do and say just about anything to get laid. I do mean anything. Here’s seven instant turn-offs that I’ve personally seen or in some cases received from guys on OkCupid.

1.) Sending an intro message, with the word, “Hey” or “Hi” and nothing else and expecting a reply. 

This is pretty much the equivalent of giving a “thumbs up sign” to every girl in the mall and then walking away.  I know it’s hard to write an intro message to a stranger. But, at least put a little effort into it, instead of just saying, hi.

2.) Sending photos of your junk in your intro message. (Yeah, that actually happened.)

Yeah, just don’t be that guy. Just don’t, please.

3.) If are more than 25 years older than the person, don’t message them. It’s kind of creepy. 

Unless the person specifically states in their profile that they only date older men, please don’t message a female who is more than 25 years younger than you. It’s just creepy. I really don’t want to date someone, who is old enough to be my father.

4.) Enough with the bathroom mirror selfie photos already. 

Enough with the bad selfies. There is nothing cute about taking a selfie in front of a dirty bathroom mirror. In fact, it actually makes you look kind of pathetic.

5.) While on the topic of photos, please refrain from using the profile photo where you have tried to “photoshop” your ex out of. 

I’d rather see a photo of you passed out drunk in the bathroom before I see a photo of you badly cropping out your ex from your profile photo. The extra legs and arms aren’t fooling anyone. K?

6.) Asking to have sex in your intro message.

While I respect the honestly, just like in point #2: Don’t be that guy. Just don’t be that guy.

7.) Finally, nothing screams “warm and fuzzy” quite like receiving a “form message” that you have clearly sent 100+ other ladies. 

Enough said.

What’s the worst online dating message you have received? Please share below in the comment section.

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The Inspiration Behind Starting Selfies & Sweatpants


A few weeks ago, I had a bit of an epiphany after having a conversation with an amazing mentor in my life. You see, I have been at a crossroads lately when it comes to my personal relationships.

I’m pretty much convinced that I’m hopelessly single. I can’t remember the last “relationship” I have been in that lasted more than oh- three or four dates. Hardly a fling.

Regardless of how appealing it may sound on some days, I’m too young to give up on dating and men entirely and enter the land of no return- filled with cats. Lots and lots of cats.

Hence, the idea for Selfies and Sweatpants was born. You see I have been on OkCupid and before. I took it seriously for one or two weeks. Went on a couple of nonchalant dates, got discouraged and closed up my account.

In hindsight, I realized I probably was giving up on finding “the one” too soon. I have been known to have extremely high expectations – both for myself as well as the guys I want to date. Let’s face it- it flat out sucks to go on first dates. They are awkward, uncomfortable and depending on who the guy you are with is, can be exceedingly creepy.

That’e exactly what inspired me to start this blog, Selfies and Sweatpants. It’s an outlet for me to get out of my comfort zone and share the trials, tribulations and misadventures that come along with dating. I’m going to challenge myself to go on at least 50 dates this year (2014.)

Follow the journey by subscribing to my blog here.

I can’t wait to hear from each and everyone of you. Please contact me anytime with your date suggestions, words of encouragement, or if you just want to chat.